One of the things I enjoy most about practicing in a community like Ellensburg is seeing families across generations. Parents who grew up here bringing in their own kids. Grandparents bringing in their grandkids when the parents are at work. I want those kids to have a totally different experience with the dentist than a lot of their parents and grandparents did.
A lot of adults today have some level of dental anxiety. Often it traces back to a bad experience as a kid. A dentist who was rough, an unexpected procedure, a moment of pain that became a defining memory. Those experiences shape how people relate to dental care for decades.
My goal with kids is to make the dentist's office feel boring. Not scary. Not exciting either. Just a normal place where you go a couple of times a year, where the same faces remember your name, where nothing weird happens. That is the foundation for a lifetime of good oral health.
When to bring them in
The American Academy of Pediatric Dentistry recommends a first dental visit by age one or within six months of the first tooth coming in.
I know that sounds early. A lot of parents are surprised by it. But there is real value in starting that early.
We can check that the teeth are coming in correctly and on schedule. We can talk through habits like bottle feeding, pacifier use, and thumb sucking, and how those affect tooth development. We can identify any early signs of decay and address them before they become problems. And maybe most importantly, we can make the first visit a calm and positive experience before there is ever a problem to fix.
The worst time to introduce a kid to the dentist is when they have a toothache. Walking in for the first time when they are already in pain associates the dentist with that pain. Walking in for the first time when nothing is wrong, getting a tour, getting to sit in the chair without anything happening, and leaving with a sticker, that builds a positive association.
What the first visit looks like
For very young kids, age one to three, the first visit is mostly about getting comfortable.
We do a knee-to-knee exam. The child sits on the parent's lap facing the parent, then leans back so their head rests in my lap. This is the most comfortable position for both child and parent. I can see clearly into the mouth, and the child has the parent right there.
We count the teeth. We check the gums. We look at the bite and how the jaw is developing. The whole thing usually takes a few minutes for kids in this age range.
We do not do a cleaning at the first visit for very young children. We do a gentle wipe of the teeth and gums with a soft cloth or finger toothbrush.
For older kids, age four and up, the visit looks more like an adult appointment. The child sits in the chair on their own. We do a full exam, take any necessary X-rays, and do a cleaning if they are ready for it.
There is no drilling, no scary tools, no sudden movements. We narrate what we are doing using simple terms. The cleaning instrument is the tooth tickler. We are counting your teeth.
How to prepare your child
A few tips that work well:
Avoid loaded language. Do not say things like it will not hurt or be brave. Both phrases plant the idea that there is something to fear. Just say we are going to the dentist to count your teeth and then we will go get pancakes after.
Read books about going to the dentist. There are good children's books that show a positive dentist visit. Daniel Tiger has an episode about it. Watching or reading these in the days before the visit normalizes the experience.
Schedule for a good time of day. Mornings work best for most young kids. Avoid right before nap or right after a long day at preschool.
Bring a comfort item. A favorite stuffed animal or blanket can come into the chair. Some kids like to bring a stuffed animal that gets a check-up first.
Stay calm yourself. Kids pick up on parental anxiety. If you are nervous about the dentist, do your best to project confidence.
Building good habits early
The habits kids build in their first few years set the tone for everything that comes after.
Brushing. Brush twice a day, morning and night, with a soft-bristled toothbrush. For kids under three, use a smear of fluoride toothpaste, about the size of a grain of rice. For kids three to six, use a pea-sized amount. Help them brush until at least age six or seven, when they have the manual dexterity to do it well on their own. After they brush, you do a follow-up brush.
Flossing. Once two teeth are touching each other, flossing matters. Floss picks make this easier for parents to do on younger children.
Diet. Sugar is the main driver of cavities, and the frequency of sugar exposure matters more than the total amount. A juice box sipped over an hour is much worse than a piece of cake eaten in five minutes. Try to keep sugary snacks and drinks limited and concentrated rather than spread throughout the day. Water is the best beverage for kids' teeth.
Avoid putting babies to bed with bottles of milk or juice. The sugar pools around the front teeth all night and causes early childhood caries, sometimes called bottle rot, which is severe decay of the front teeth. If your baby needs a bottle to sleep, use water.
Common questions parents ask
Are baby teeth important since they fall out anyway? Yes. Baby teeth hold space for the permanent teeth coming in behind them. Losing baby teeth too early to decay can cause crowding and orthodontic problems later. Baby teeth also matter for chewing, speech development, and self-esteem.
When do baby teeth start coming in? Usually around six months, though anywhere from three months to twelve months is normal. The lower front teeth come in first, then the upper front teeth. Most kids have a full set of 20 baby teeth by age three.
When do permanent teeth start coming in? Around age six. The first permanent molars come in behind the baby teeth, and the lower front teeth are usually the first baby teeth to fall out. The full set of 32 permanent teeth, including wisdom teeth, is usually complete in the late teens or early twenties.
Should my child get sealants? Probably yes. Dental sealants are thin coatings applied to the chewing surfaces of the back teeth. They prevent the most common type of childhood cavities. We typically apply sealants to permanent molars as they come in, around age six and again around age twelve.
What about thumb sucking and pacifiers? Most kids self-stop thumb sucking and pacifier use by age three or four. If the habit continues past age four to five, it can affect tooth and jaw development and may require intervention. Talk to us if it is going on longer than that.
Our office in Ellensburg
We see kids alongside adults, and we work to make the environment comfortable for families. We do not have a separate kids' wing, but our team is experienced with young patients and we keep the visits short, friendly, and predictable.
If you have questions about your child's dental development, want to schedule a first visit, or just want to bring your kid in to meet us before their first appointment, call us at (509) 933-3300.
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